Advice Letter: I Think My Wife Is Cheating On Me...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am my wife's third husband. I encouraged her to pursue her education. She graduated from college with a teaching degree and is in her second year of teaching. She maintains a high degree of independence. She pays her bills, I pay mine, and she retains an ex-husband's name. A year ago she discovered a book on nutrition and exercise. She is 37 and in good shape, but wanted to improve her looks even further. For the past 10 months she has been religiously exercising, dieting, and reading muscle magazines. She is now extremely well built with a hard chiseled body.

She has always gotten attention, but I believe she is getting a lot more now, especially from the young stud teachers. Although she denies she is vying for attention, she just bought a major "muscle car." Where she used to be modest, she now wears tight tops with cleavage showing and a bare midriff. The latest? She is having her hair dyed blond this weekend. When I ask her why she has changed, she gets hostile. She denies anything is going on and says I am strangling her. And by the way, she told me, the gang from school is going skiing and she would like to go. I am not invited. I don't know what to do... I think she may be cheating on me.
Sincerely,
A Concerned Husband

Dear Concerned Husband,
If it was one or two changes, I'd tell you to attribute it to a mid-life crisis and tell you to give her space. But, in putting all of these things together it's not good. Although, I do not think she has cheated on you yet, she may have entertained the ideal. You need to remind her that she needs not change to please you. Do something that makes her remember that you're all the man she needs. Talk to her, have a heart to heart, let her know exactly how you feel. Tell her about how you're afraid to lose her and how she makes you feel with all these changes. Also, step your romance game up. Prepare a special candle lit dinner with roses and champagne... "Woo" your wife. Show her that you're still as hot for her as you were years ago.
- Miss Dimplez

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OD: Why Steadman And Men Like Him Will Never Have Oprah

OverDose: I was reading this quote that Stedman (Oprah's on-and-off-again boo) said about Oprah. In reading it, it became appearant to me why their relationship never worked out...

“I don’t think they understand the value of who she is as a human being and what she’s done. Because a prophet has no honor in his own town. I think they take her for granted a lot. I’m just saying, from an insider’s point of view, that I don’t think she gets the just due based on who she really is and what she’s done for the Chicagoland area… she’s a great humanitarian, a great leader.” (quote via GossipOnThis)

Oprah is cool, she has done a lot for charities/foundations, but calling her a 'modern day prophet' is a stretch... Men like Stedman will never "have" women like Oprah because they over idolize their women. I respect Stedman for respecting Oprah so much that he has to praise her all the time, but after all these years, you think he'd realize that the relationship will not be successful. Post your thoughts below.

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Advice Letter: He Broke Into My House

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I need your help. I have been going out with this guy for five months now. He is a very nice person, he treats me well, and we have fun together. The main problem is recently he lied to me. We were supposed to meet, but he did not appear. He claimed he was carjacked. He has keys to my house, so he went and took money and pretended the carjackers did it. I want to forgive him but I'm not sure what to do. He asked for forgiveness and promised that this incident will never be repeated. Can I trust him again?
Sincerely,
[-name removed-]

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Dear [-name removed-],
This guy is a liar and a thief. He took advantage of your trust and if you stay with him, he will only make a fool out of you. You should be happy that you found out what he was now, before the situation got even more serious... I do think you should forgive him. Forgiveness isn't necessarily for the other person, it also includes being at peace with yourself. If you hold a grudge against him, it will only eat you away, and you don't want that kind of burden. Forgive him, but move on. You don't need to be this man's fool.
-Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: He Wants Me To Get Breast Implants

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I love your site, and I'm glad you give advice because I have a serious issue and no one to talk to about it. I love my boyfriend so much, and it has come to the point where he is going to ask me to marry him. But he wants me to get breast implants because that is what he likes. He is a very successful man who can and does do anything for me. So because he does these things for me, he can't understand why I won't do this one simple thing for him. I told him I do not want to do it before he asks me to marry. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Girl With Problem

Photographer: Jai Lovehall Model: Ashton Mari

I appreciate you writing this letter because so many times do we, as women, try to change ourselves to fit another person's image. You should only get breast implants if you want to, and from your letter I'm sure you don't. Even though your boyfriend likes large breasts, and you're hoping he will eventually ask you to marry him, he's not the one that will undergo the knife... Him asking you to get breast implants is like you asking him to get a penis implant. Implants are not like a new clothes, you can't take them off when you want to. It's a major surgery and it is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life... You've made it this far in the relationship without it surgical enhancements, but if its absolutely something he can't live without, then you may have to part ways...
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: One Night Stand For a Celebrity, Will He Call?

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I met someone over the weekend who is very very famous. Let's call him "D". I had been volunteering with his sister all day, and D's friend told his sister to tell me that D really likes me because he thinks I am different and sexy. We all hung out, but D didn't talk to me off the bat, then we went to the club, and he was all over this other chick. And I was mad a little bit, I had been drinking. So then we went to someone else's house, and then D comes up to me and starts talking. We ended up kissing and having sex. When I woke up, D was downstairs. I felt terrible, partly because of the beer, but then because of what I did. So as I grabbed my clothes and proceeded to leave, but I ran into him before I could get out the door, and we ended up having sex again. Before I left I wanted him to ask for my number, because I like him, but he wasn't gonna get my number unless he asked. Do you think me and D could make something out of this? Will he even call me?
Sincerely,
Girl Who Was A One Night Stand

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Dear Girl Who Was A One Night Stand,
He is not going to call you unless he wants "some". He is famous, and from what you're telling me, girls throw themselves at him all the time. There is no reason for him to invest in you if you're willing to give it up so easily. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? D probably thought you know what the deal was when you got there. Him asking for your number was a way to get you to exit stage left. It's never in a woman's best interest to get drunk and have sex with a stranger. You were just a weekend girl (a groupie) and he probably has no respect for you. You won't be respected until you respect yourself. Don't be a repeat offender; keep your legs closed.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I Fell In Love With A Swinger...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
Seven months ago I met a really wonderful man. He was kind, understanding, and a great communicator. He shared my love of the outdoors and accepted me for who I am. This was particularly important to me because I have a high sex drive and have had relationships where my lover just wasn’t up to it. Now I seem to be punished for who I am. The wonderful man I fell in love with, after seven months of monogamous dating, announced he wanted not only group play but actually to have an open relationship. He wants to date others and be free to see ex-girlfriends. Already he has thrown a party to which I was not invited, so he could have sex with an ex. He said the greatest gift a lover could give is to be absent and allow their lover to be with someone else. Right now he is seeing an ex who is visiting town. Another ex comes to town soon, and a lover from overseas is due next month. At the same time he’s caught up with an old girlfriend and is organizing a date with a new girl he met two months ago. He says when he sleeps with another it makes him want to come back to me all the more. He says an open relationship is a loving one and our capacity for love is endless. I feel he is manipulating me. He lied to get me interested and now wants me to approve his seedy lifestyle. Am I right? Or is it possible, if I had a different attitude, I could really enjoy this like he says?
Sincerely,
Girl Who Fell In Love With A Swinger

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Dear Girl Who Fell In Love With A Swinger,If he had told you upfront that he wanted you to be part of his harem, you would have run. This does not sound like a cultural/religious facet, but more like a 'commitment' issue. Don't compromise yourself in efforts to hold on to a man who has a distorted sense of love. He was nice to you in the beginning, buttered you up, got you emotionally involved and then switched the relationship style. He was hoping to get you to stay through all his antics. It is obvious to me that he lacks regard of your feelings, because he's already out there swinging from woman to woman, and told you after the fact. Do yourself a favor and leave. Sticking around will only bring emotional heartache. He will always be on the prowl for women to add to his roster, and you will always be worried about it. You mind will never be at ease because you will always wonder about who and what he's doing and where. That's pain you shouldn't voluntarily put yourself through. Not only that, but with all the diseases and virus that's out there, staying with him could be detrimental to your health. Tell him you're leaving and leave. No false promises or ultimatums. If he can't be satisfied with just you, then he doesn't deserve you.

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Advice Letter: She Left Me For Her Loser Ex...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
Love your site and appreciate this advice column because it gives men like me a chance to ask a female some questions and not get some bullshit answers. Let me tell you what happened.. I am your average good guy. And you know what they say, nice guys finish last ;), but in this case, it's not a good thing. My girlfriend of two months broke up with me yesterday, and her reasoning was that she is not over her ex-boyfriend, when they broke up over six months ago. They were together for over a year and a half. And while they were together, he had sex with two other girls, cheating on her. He was a thug, didn't treat her right, and she even admitted he was not the kind of guy she wanted at all. With him she had to lie to her parents, but with me, her parents love me! My first question is why do girls always go for the bad guys, the ones who break their hearts? Then they find a good guy, break his heart, and go back to the bad guy.. My second question is what can a guy do to make a girl realize she is making a mistake and about to get her heart broken again?
Sincerely,
The Good Guy

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Dear Good Guy,
You were her rebound relationship, and as awful as her ex-treated her, you pale in comparison. There is some sense of comfort that she finds in him, but most likely will never recognize in you. A majority of us women make this mistake everyday. We try to stick to loser that we're used to, in efforts to save ourselves from different types of 'hurt' we're not ready for. Why do some of us women go for the 'bad guy'? Initially its excitement, and then we start to think we can change our men... Nothing short of a negative experience can make a girl 'realize' her mistake. This is something she has to do, a mistake she has to make, and an experience she'll hopefully learn from. You need to accept that and move on. There are some good girls out there who still want the good guy.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: We Met Online And Now She Wants A Baby...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
In November I met a woman on eharmony, and we hit it right off. She invited me over for dinner and quickly pursued a deep and intimate relationship. She does not work but spends most of her time in a dark apartment, with the blinds closed, sitting in front of a TV. I work a demanding full-time job. Things weren't perfect, but I was content. In March I took her out of town for a few days. After we got back she asked when we were getting married. I told her I wanted to wait a good year or two so we could fully develop our relationship. She gave me an ultimatum, so I proposed marriage.... As soon as this happened, she tried to pressure me into having a baby with her and buying a house. She is good in some ways like buying me gifts and stocking the refrigerator with things I like, but she never admits when she is wrong, never apologizes, and never works to correct anything. I feel too much is happening too fast. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Man Who Found His Woman On The Internet

Dear Man Who Found His Woman On The Internet,
People no longer use internet dating sites for someone who they want to meet and grow, but more like catalog shopping for what they want to control. Its obvious to me that you were looking for love, and before you could say that you found it, she wants a house and a baby. And with her wants, she pressured you into an engagement and if you marry her, she will pressure you into a life you don't want. I don't care how 'compatible' the site said you were, but this is not a match. You are not in harmony. Move on. But, consider yourself blessed, she could have hid her true colors until after you got married, and you would have ended up with a woman you couldn't stand to live with.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Man Is Always Tweeting Other Women

Dear Miss Dimplez,
My boyfriend seems to be always tweeting random twitter girls... He's always flirting with them on the computer with winky faces and excessive "lol"s. And these girls '@-reply' him with hashtags like 'twitter lover' or 'twitter crush'. And he doesn't respond to them by telling them he's involved, he simply says "thank you". That cocky little b*stard. He tweets them all the time. I know you'll probably think I'm over reacting but I barely get to spend time with my man as is. His job requires a lot of travel, and he's always on the move. Yes he does use twitter for some of his business work, to promote his site/clients, and stuff, but these girls on twitter are ruthless. Half of them probably don't even know we're in a relationship or that he's taken. This makes me worried because if I can't trust him under my nose, what should I expect from the times I'm not there. Should I confront him? Should I make him quit twitter? Is it time for us to go our separate ways?
Sincerely,
Girl Who Thinks Her Man Is Excessively Tweeting

Dear Girl Who thinks Her Man Is Excessively TweetingTwitter is a social networking site, and is meant for people to interact. I believe you're overreacting. To me it sounds like you have what I like to call "internet jealousy". I'm not saying you're a jealous person, I'm just saying that you must feel as though you have to compete with the internet for his affection. You're not able to spend as much time with your "boo" as you'd like, so when you turn to internet/social networks as a substitute, you have to share that space with 'random twitter girls'. Its not the tweets/followers on twitter that matter, its the people who are still there when you turn off the computer. I understand your situation must be hard being that he travels a lot, but you have to keep in mind that the internet is not a private place for you and your honey to be alone. There are billions of people on the internet and I'm sure that all those billions of people don't know you and your boo are dating. With that being said, when he's promoting his work on twitter, sending smiley faces and "lol"s it should never be taken to mean anything past a promotion of work. Never assume. Men are not mind readers, so I'm sure that he has no idea how you're feeling. I can suggest that you talk to him about your feelings and also, try not to be jealous when it comes to his tweets. It's okay for him to tweet other people, when he logs off the computer, there's only one person he's 'tweeting'.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Man Moves Slow

Dear Miss Dimplez
I'm 28 and have been exclusively dating someone, 36, for almost a year now. I feel, given our age, we should have enough experience to know whether we would like to pursue a serious relationship. When I ask my boyfriend about a future commitment, which means he wants me in his future and is committed to making it work, his response is, "Let's take it slow." Frankly, I don't know how much slower I can take it. I am not insinuating marriage or even living together. I would like to know he is committed to the possibility of a life together. What is a reasonable period for someone to know if they are willing to commit on the level I described? I understand everyone works on a different time clock, but when does time run out? He will only share that he loves me if I ask him. I am a patient, caring, loving, smart woman who has a lot to offer. I love this man, but I am realistic and will not wait forever.

Sincerely,
Girl Whose Man Moves Too Slow

Dear Girl Whose Man Moves Too Slow,
As much as we would like to make our relationships move according to a speed we're comfortable with, or we expect, that's not how life is, nor does the other person move at our speed. In a relationship it is not best to rush things, but I understand you're impatient with his lack of commitment for the future, so talk to him about it. If after the conversation the terms of your relationship are STILL unsuitable for you, take a month-long break from the relationship. After a month, return to the relationship only if there is anything worth salvaging, other wise move on... You may love that man, but you are not super glued to that man. And until you're married or have children, you have no REAL commitment to him. - Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: Is My Man Gay?

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I think my boyfriend is gay. We've been dating for like 7 years now, since we were in high school. When we started dating I always though he had feminine tendencies, but I always attributed that to him being raised by a single mother. And we've been intimate, he isn't "the best" lover, but he's always been passionate. But as of late he's been wanting to have anal sex, and if I'm not up to it, he's been pushing me away. I've also caught him checking guys out when we go out to eat and stuff. We live together and he has moved from our bedroom into the guest bedroom. We have one child together, so I really don't want to leave him, but I want him to be happy. If he's not into women, there's no way I can make him happy. I hope I didn't turn him gay. I really think he's trying to hide his new orientation, but he hasn't touched me in 6 months... I'm worried..
Sincerely,
Girl Who Thinks Her Man Is Gay

Dear Girl Who Thinks Her Man Is Gay,
First and foremost, you cannot "turn" someone gay, but speculating about it, looking for changes and subtleties, will only continue to affirm what you think. Keyword being think, because until you have a conversation with him, you will not know. The more solidified you are on your opinion the harder it will be to come out to you if he is gay. Despite his sexual orientation, keep in mind he is only one-third of your relationship. By moving into the guest room, distancing himself,...etc, he is changing that one-third. The remaining two-thirds of the relationship is you and your child. Will his sexual orientation change how good of a father he is? No, probably not. Will his sexual orientation affect your relationship? Yes, most definitely. Are you willing to handle the two, in separate strides, no matter what comes you way? Well, that answer is up to you... But, the only way to find out if he is or isn't gay is by talking to him. - Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Boo Gets Jealous

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am dating the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and I love her more than anything in the world. But, there is a problem, or I wouldn't be writing you. My girlfriend is extremely jealous, especially of celebrities. We had read a blog on BlogXilla about Zoe Saldana, and she asked me if I thought Zoe was attractive, and I said yes. And ever since then its like all she does is ask me if I think celebrities are attractive. After the Zoe incident she didn't speak to me for a week. I never look at other real women. She seems only to be jealous of celebrities who are way out of my league. Not too many movie stars hang out in my small town in Colorado. What should I do? We've been dating for almost 3 months now, but I don't know if I can handle this jealousy for much longer...
Sincerely,
Man Whose Boo Gets Jealous

Dear Man Whose Boo Gets Jealous,
Talk to her about her jealousy. Explain how you feel it's a problem, and that it's pushing you away. Let her know that being jealous of girls like Zoe Saldana is a waste of time. Zoe, amongst other celebrity women, are just fantasy women. Fantasy women have real women problems just like the rest of us, AND they a staff of people that make them look that gorgeous. If the problem persists, leave the relationship. There's no reason to be in a relationship where you can't be honest and happy. Even in that small town in Colorado, there's bound to be new love around an un-turned corner.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I Can't Stand My New Boo...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
My boyfriend and I have only been dating 10 days, and I already want to end the relationship. It's not like he's psycho or anything. Actually he's really nice to me, but there are no sparks! I just know he's not the one for me, so why waste my time on something that won't last? When we kiss he is overly aggressive, and I have to wipe the spit off my face! It's so gross. My problem is my sister is dating his older brother, and they would be mad if I broke his heart. Also, I love his whole family and don't want them to hate me for hurting him. It seems cruel to break up with him so soon. Should I try to get him to break up with me? Dating is really complicated, but I know this is not working. Please, please, please help me!
Sincerely,
Girl Who Can't Stand Her Boo

Dear Girl Who Can't Stand Her Boo, Break up with him, and FAST. There is no rule that says you have to date for a certain amount of time before you can end a relationship. I understand that you don't want to break his heart, that you love his family, your sister and his older brother got a thing, but you're the one in this relationship. You and him are the only ones that actually matter. The longer you remain in the relationship the more his feelings have time to grow for you. It would be more crushing then to end it than it is now. So, if this relationship is not something you want to be in, end it.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I'm A Sucka 4 Luv... HELP!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
My question is about a girl in my class , that I met by sending her a cute lil email crush to which she loved. We started hanging out and going to mall and dates and etc it was a match made in heaven we have so much in common. I talked to her about how much I dug her and whatnot, and she told me that she wasnt looking for a boyfriend right now. So I was fine with that but it seemed that after that time she started to get distant, so I told her i would stop contacting her cuz my feelings were strong for her to just be friends. When I cut off contact with her she kept contacting me and when I initiate again it goes well for a few days and then she gets distant again. Im currently talking to her again but it seem like she gets mad that i cut off my "boyish charm" and ask me if something is wrong, if I have a problem with her. What should I do I am confused, or is she just confused or am I just in the "friendzone". by the way im 24 and she is 21
Sincerely,
Sucka 4 Luv

Dear Sucka 4 Luv,She wants to be chased, without being 'caught'. It seems as though every time you get close she pushes you away. And as eager as you are to pursue a relationship past the "friend zone", my suggestion is pump the brakes until you've seen all the cards. Have another conversation with her and let her know exactly how you feel and that friendship is not something you're interested in. Maybe there's something going on with her that she has not been up front about. If at the end of that conversation a friendship is all she is interested in, and you're not okay with that, move on. As old as you are, you do not need to be an emotional yo-yo.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Ex Trapped Me!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am currently going through a divorce, negotiating out my settlement, and it's taking a year and half. So I started a relationship with another woman, after all I am a man with needs and I am legally separated. About four months ago, I was dropping off my 2 kids, and my ex begged me to stay for a while. At first I was suspicious but, I figured she wanted to talk to me about something pertaining my children. She begged me to have sex with her one last time, and she swore she would leave me alone forever if I did this. She desperately begged, begged, and begged. So I did. About a month later, she told me she was pregnant. Under the circumstances I thought she should be devastated, but she seemed happy. But this new woman, I've known her for six years, and we connect on all levels. But I've lost her trust. I don't know if she still wants to be with me. She's been having a difficult time in getting through this. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Foolish Man

Dear Foolish Man,

The fact that your ex begged you for sex should have been an indicator that she was up to something. She's happy about the pregnancy because it was intentional. Your ex trapped you. A new baby is another way for her to gauge money from your pockets and spend additional time with you. At the same time, consider if reconciliation with your ex is possible, for the sake of your 3 children. As for this new woman, give her some space. You cheated on her with your ex. From her stand point, there is nothing stopping you from leaving her and going back to her ex. That insecurity can be overwhelming. Let her decide if she wants to be with you or not. If she does, do whatever you can to earn her trust back. Become a man of your word, be un-foolish.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: He's Living With Another Girl

Dear Miss Dimplez,

I love your blog and I follow you on twitter and see that you give really good advice. I was hoping you could give me some too. Here's the deal, there's a guy that I am involved with, me and him talk, and stuff, and he calls me his lady, and comes over and puts it on me, stays the night and everything, but he's living with another girl. He's sexing her too, and I know it seems like I'm the side-chick, but I was with him first. He only moved in with that girl when we were having a fight, but now he's on the lease so he can't go no where. And I love him. Well, I'm in love with the way he makes me feel when I'm with him. My friends don't even want to listen any more. I just want to know if its wrong for me to be in this situation. I don't know what I should do, please help.

Sincerely,

Girl With Problem

Dear Girl With Problem,

I know they say you can't chose who you love, but you need to make the decision on whether or not to love this man... You may have been there "first" but a new girl has marked her territory. He's sneaking away and occasionally spending the night with you, but he is going home to her. At the end of the day, she is who he comes home to, not you. You are grown so I can not tell you what to do, all I can say is love yourself first. If you truly love yourself, you learn to respect yourself. And if you truly respect yourself, you would not disrespect yourself, or disrespect your body, by being the man's side-chick.

- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: Help! I Went Through His Things!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I think my boyfriend of the past year is cheating on me... The other day I was going through his phone, and found a couple texts from different girls. All the texts had winky faces and contained statements like "when am I going to see you?", "what are you doing tonight?" and "you looked sexy today"... I even found a picture of a girl in victoria secrets, it may be a playboy model or something, but I was so mad and upset, I know he didn't know I went through his stuff, so I just didn't say anything. Should I be upset? He is still coming home to me right? We've been living together for like 4 months but dating for a year, should I confront him? Should I leave him? I don't know what to do.. Help please!

Sincerely,
Girl With Problem

P.S.
I love your blog.

Dear Girl With Problem,

If you go looking for dirt you will surely find it. Never ever go through your man's things. If the tables were turned you would hate it if he went through yours... The damage has already been done; all you can do now is apologize for snooping and talk to him. Men are not mind readers. He'll only know how you feel if you tell him. Open up to him and see how things move from there. You'll know if it's time for a make up or break up. Also, never feel insecure about photos of playmates, models, etc... those are just fantasy women he most likely will never obtain. Ditch the hurt and dress up in something saucy. Take your own special pictures; let those be your man's constant reminders of what goodies he's coming home to.
- Miss Dimplez

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Cheaters Never Prosper

Have you ever walked into a room and seen your significant other’s cell phone sitting lonely? We’ve all been in this predicament before.. The cell phone seems to be screaming, “READ MY TEXT MESSAGES”. You know you shouldn’t, but subconsciously all you want to do is check it…. So, what do you do? Do you check it or do you just let it sit there? You know you’ve been wondering who really text messages all day long. So now you have the chance to find out, what do you do? DON’T DO IT. When you look for some dirt, you’re bound to find some. Quite frankly, it’ll probably be something that you don’t like. Cheating is wrong, no one should be cheated on, but finding out sucks, especially when you have to snoop to do it. All that hurt and turmoil you would put yourself through is above and beyond heartbreak… So ask yourself, is it all worth a text message? If you’re really interested in finding out if your ‘boo’ is a cheater there are other methods, and if you have cheated guilty text messages are NOT the way to be found out. Cheating is pretty common, but there are certain circumstances in where you should never tell them. For example, if you no longer deal with the person on the side, there is no need to mention it. You have reformed your ways and telling your boo will only strain the relationship. Also, just because your lover cheated on you, doesn’t mean they don’t love you. If you’re a really emotion filled couple don’t tell them you cheated. Love is not supposed to hurt, and cheating hurts, bad. Even though in theory telling might be the best thing, it will ruin your relationship. You’re better off quietly reforming your ways. If you haven’t reformed your ways, you’re still sleeping around, and have abundant ‘guilty’ text messages, you deserve to be caught. Your relationship deserves to be ruined. Don’t make cheating a habit. If it happened once, you’re entire life due to extenuating circumstances it can e absolved, if its an every day occurrence, you don’t need to be in that relationship. Cheaters never prosper.

-Miss Dimplez

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