MissDimplez.com Updates

Hello,

My apologies for the the lack of posts today, I am in the process of upgrading the entire site so it can be better and awesome-r than it already is... The upgrade will be complete by tomorrow (at the latest), and I will have a lot of goodies, interviews and exclusives just for you. Thanks for sticking with me over the past year and a half. Blogging truly isn't as easy as it seems, but when you have awesome support from family, friends, even strangers, it makes the journey worth while... I appreciate you all, and will continue to do my best.
Always, Miss Dimplez

P.S. Feel like talking to me? You can tweet me @MissDimplez or on facebook. Also, feel free to scroll thru the archives and catch up on anything you've missed... =*] Thanks again!

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Advice Letter: I Think My Wife Is Cheating On Me...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am my wife's third husband. I encouraged her to pursue her education. She graduated from college with a teaching degree and is in her second year of teaching. She maintains a high degree of independence. She pays her bills, I pay mine, and she retains an ex-husband's name. A year ago she discovered a book on nutrition and exercise. She is 37 and in good shape, but wanted to improve her looks even further. For the past 10 months she has been religiously exercising, dieting, and reading muscle magazines. She is now extremely well built with a hard chiseled body.

She has always gotten attention, but I believe she is getting a lot more now, especially from the young stud teachers. Although she denies she is vying for attention, she just bought a major "muscle car." Where she used to be modest, she now wears tight tops with cleavage showing and a bare midriff. The latest? She is having her hair dyed blond this weekend. When I ask her why she has changed, she gets hostile. She denies anything is going on and says I am strangling her. And by the way, she told me, the gang from school is going skiing and she would like to go. I am not invited. I don't know what to do... I think she may be cheating on me.
Sincerely,
A Concerned Husband

Dear Concerned Husband,
If it was one or two changes, I'd tell you to attribute it to a mid-life crisis and tell you to give her space. But, in putting all of these things together it's not good. Although, I do not think she has cheated on you yet, she may have entertained the ideal. You need to remind her that she needs not change to please you. Do something that makes her remember that you're all the man she needs. Talk to her, have a heart to heart, let her know exactly how you feel. Tell her about how you're afraid to lose her and how she makes you feel with all these changes. Also, step your romance game up. Prepare a special candle lit dinner with roses and champagne... "Woo" your wife. Show her that you're still as hot for her as you were years ago.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: Is My Man Gay?

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I think my boyfriend is gay. We've been dating for like 7 years now, since we were in high school. When we started dating I always though he had feminine tendencies, but I always attributed that to him being raised by a single mother. And we've been intimate, he isn't "the best" lover, but he's always been passionate. But as of late he's been wanting to have anal sex, and if I'm not up to it, he's been pushing me away. I've also caught him checking guys out when we go out to eat and stuff. We live together and he has moved from our bedroom into the guest bedroom. We have one child together, so I really don't want to leave him, but I want him to be happy. If he's not into women, there's no way I can make him happy. I hope I didn't turn him gay. I really think he's trying to hide his new orientation, but he hasn't touched me in 6 months... I'm worried..
Sincerely,
Girl Who Thinks Her Man Is Gay

Dear Girl Who Thinks Her Man Is Gay,
First and foremost, you cannot "turn" someone gay, but speculating about it, looking for changes and subtleties, will only continue to affirm what you think. Keyword being think, because until you have a conversation with him, you will not know. The more solidified you are on your opinion the harder it will be to come out to you if he is gay. Despite his sexual orientation, keep in mind he is only one-third of your relationship. By moving into the guest room, distancing himself,...etc, he is changing that one-third. The remaining two-thirds of the relationship is you and your child. Will his sexual orientation change how good of a father he is? No, probably not. Will his sexual orientation affect your relationship? Yes, most definitely. Are you willing to handle the two, in separate strides, no matter what comes you way? Well, that answer is up to you... But, the only way to find out if he is or isn't gay is by talking to him. - Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Boo Gets Jealous

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am dating the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and I love her more than anything in the world. But, there is a problem, or I wouldn't be writing you. My girlfriend is extremely jealous, especially of celebrities. We had read a blog on BlogXilla about Zoe Saldana, and she asked me if I thought Zoe was attractive, and I said yes. And ever since then its like all she does is ask me if I think celebrities are attractive. After the Zoe incident she didn't speak to me for a week. I never look at other real women. She seems only to be jealous of celebrities who are way out of my league. Not too many movie stars hang out in my small town in Colorado. What should I do? We've been dating for almost 3 months now, but I don't know if I can handle this jealousy for much longer...
Sincerely,
Man Whose Boo Gets Jealous

Dear Man Whose Boo Gets Jealous,
Talk to her about her jealousy. Explain how you feel it's a problem, and that it's pushing you away. Let her know that being jealous of girls like Zoe Saldana is a waste of time. Zoe, amongst other celebrity women, are just fantasy women. Fantasy women have real women problems just like the rest of us, AND they a staff of people that make them look that gorgeous. If the problem persists, leave the relationship. There's no reason to be in a relationship where you can't be honest and happy. Even in that small town in Colorado, there's bound to be new love around an un-turned corner.
- Miss Dimplez

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My 50+ Days As A Vegan...

I used to call myself a meat-atarian. is that steak? shrimp? chicken? cheese?...I loved it! Especially cheese! But, as I started the new year (2010), I wanted to do something different... So, on January 4th (my birthday), I began this thing called the Daniel Fast... The Daniel Fast is a span of 21 days, where you deny your fleshly wants and strengthen your spirit, by living off of berries, fruits, nuts, and non meat (vegan friendly) foods. The first week was killer. I thought I was going to die of starvation! I didn't know what to eat! I ended up eating a lot of baby carrots, potatoes, and lemons... As the days and weeks began to roll by, the fast became easier... I discovered "other food groups", and this marvelous invention they call soy! At the end of the 21 days I had lost about 20lbs and was feeling accomplished. I did something I thought I could never do, I was a vegan for 21 days.

I tried to return to my meat-atarian ways, but I couldn't do it. The sight or smell of meat/chicken alone made me sick. So, when my church announced that they were fasting the entire month of February, I jumped on the wagon, and decided to continue my Daniel Fast until the end of February. Well, today is the last day of February, and I am officially putting an end to it. I won't let me new found health go to waste. I plan on continuing to eat healthy. I suggest you try 21 days as a vegan. It'll surprise you the strength and will power you have.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I Can't Stand My New Boo...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
My boyfriend and I have only been dating 10 days, and I already want to end the relationship. It's not like he's psycho or anything. Actually he's really nice to me, but there are no sparks! I just know he's not the one for me, so why waste my time on something that won't last? When we kiss he is overly aggressive, and I have to wipe the spit off my face! It's so gross. My problem is my sister is dating his older brother, and they would be mad if I broke his heart. Also, I love his whole family and don't want them to hate me for hurting him. It seems cruel to break up with him so soon. Should I try to get him to break up with me? Dating is really complicated, but I know this is not working. Please, please, please help me!
Sincerely,
Girl Who Can't Stand Her Boo

Dear Girl Who Can't Stand Her Boo, Break up with him, and FAST. There is no rule that says you have to date for a certain amount of time before you can end a relationship. I understand that you don't want to break his heart, that you love his family, your sister and his older brother got a thing, but you're the one in this relationship. You and him are the only ones that actually matter. The longer you remain in the relationship the more his feelings have time to grow for you. It would be more crushing then to end it than it is now. So, if this relationship is not something you want to be in, end it.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I'm A Sucka 4 Luv... HELP!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
My question is about a girl in my class , that I met by sending her a cute lil email crush to which she loved. We started hanging out and going to mall and dates and etc it was a match made in heaven we have so much in common. I talked to her about how much I dug her and whatnot, and she told me that she wasnt looking for a boyfriend right now. So I was fine with that but it seemed that after that time she started to get distant, so I told her i would stop contacting her cuz my feelings were strong for her to just be friends. When I cut off contact with her she kept contacting me and when I initiate again it goes well for a few days and then she gets distant again. Im currently talking to her again but it seem like she gets mad that i cut off my "boyish charm" and ask me if something is wrong, if I have a problem with her. What should I do I am confused, or is she just confused or am I just in the "friendzone". by the way im 24 and she is 21
Sincerely,
Sucka 4 Luv

Dear Sucka 4 Luv,She wants to be chased, without being 'caught'. It seems as though every time you get close she pushes you away. And as eager as you are to pursue a relationship past the "friend zone", my suggestion is pump the brakes until you've seen all the cards. Have another conversation with her and let her know exactly how you feel and that friendship is not something you're interested in. Maybe there's something going on with her that she has not been up front about. If at the end of that conversation a friendship is all she is interested in, and you're not okay with that, move on. As old as you are, you do not need to be an emotional yo-yo.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: My Ex Trapped Me!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I am currently going through a divorce, negotiating out my settlement, and it's taking a year and half. So I started a relationship with another woman, after all I am a man with needs and I am legally separated. About four months ago, I was dropping off my 2 kids, and my ex begged me to stay for a while. At first I was suspicious but, I figured she wanted to talk to me about something pertaining my children. She begged me to have sex with her one last time, and she swore she would leave me alone forever if I did this. She desperately begged, begged, and begged. So I did. About a month later, she told me she was pregnant. Under the circumstances I thought she should be devastated, but she seemed happy. But this new woman, I've known her for six years, and we connect on all levels. But I've lost her trust. I don't know if she still wants to be with me. She's been having a difficult time in getting through this. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Foolish Man

Dear Foolish Man,

The fact that your ex begged you for sex should have been an indicator that she was up to something. She's happy about the pregnancy because it was intentional. Your ex trapped you. A new baby is another way for her to gauge money from your pockets and spend additional time with you. At the same time, consider if reconciliation with your ex is possible, for the sake of your 3 children. As for this new woman, give her some space. You cheated on her with your ex. From her stand point, there is nothing stopping you from leaving her and going back to her ex. That insecurity can be overwhelming. Let her decide if she wants to be with you or not. If she does, do whatever you can to earn her trust back. Become a man of your word, be un-foolish.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: I'm Sleeping With His Wife!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I have been involved with a married woman for six months. I know her husband through a company I used to work for and initially began speaking to his wife online. We had an instant connection. We were friendly at first but then I told her I liked her. Eventually we met and upon being alone, ended up making out. Later on in the relationship we began sleeping together. Neither of us can be blamed for what happened because we both kind of pushed the issue. But I don't think she loves me like I love her. She has two children with her husband. I know she’s probably not going to leave him, but I love her. I know she doesn’t want to be caught, and I’m wondering if it’s best to walk away, or keep seeing her and pray she gets caught.
Sincerely
The Homewrecking Man

Dear Homewrecking Man,

Infidelity is not a virtue. For 6 months you maintained a sexual relationship with another man's wife. You both are to blame. I understand 'things happen' and you can't chose who you love but in this situation you must chose someone else. You need to walk away. It's been 6 months, the bulk of the damage has already been done, and if she hasn't left her husband for you by now, she has no intention of doing so. Walk away with any self-respect you have left.

- Miss Dimplez

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Press: The-Blurbs.Com

If you don't know of @Dauche, then you're sleeping on fresh [www.the-blurbs.com]. This SD chick is the business. Real DEFINITELY recognizes real. It is an honor to be featured on her site. I appreciate this so much. Thank you.
"numbers don't lie.."
www.the-blurbs.com

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And The Winner Is...

Last week I chose a winner for the Rich & Rude Crewneck Giveaway. And the winner is some chickie name Marquis out in Cali! She's pretty cool. Along with the crewneck there were other random goodies... like a necklace, earring, sweet and sour patch kids... etc. This was just the first contests and trust me, they'll only get better...

More contests coming SOON...

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The Weekly Wrap Up: Organ Holiday

This week was AWESOME. I am beyond blessed, and there is so much more amazingness coming your way! *promise!... don't forget about the organ holiday aka Valentine's Day coming around the corner. You don't have to "celebrate" it, but simply tell someone you care about that you still care about them. Also, Happy Black History Month..... This week I have some exclusive interviews lined up this week, the blog is "popping" off, thank you for everything you've done. Stay tuned!

Top blog of the week, Fake Sneakers AREN'T Fresh (over 700+ views) .....[click here].. The favorite picture, Would you rock this backpack designed by Kanye West (600+ views) ....[click here]. My Talent Tuesday: Karlie Hustle (1500+ views) .....[click here]... and a Dear Miss Dimplez Letter (1200+ views) .....[click here]...

- Miss Dimplez

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Dear Miss Dimplez...

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I would normally never write a letter to a complete stranger, but I'm hoping you could give me some advice. I am almost 100% sure that my girlfriend of 3 years has been cheating on me, and may have given me the clap. My suspicions first arose when she came home late one night and wouldn't let me hold her as we slept. I disregarded it, I just figured she had a bad day or something. And then I started finding random expensive looking things that I didn't buy for her around the house. I wanted to confront her about them, but she be on that "independent" bull sh*t, and I didn't want to offend her and make matters worse. But things have been taking a turn for the worst. I have never cheated on her, yet alone looked at another woman like that. And for the last 2 days its really hurt/burned when I pee. I went to the doctor and they told me had chlamydia. So obviously she's been raw dogging it with another n*gga. And I want to confront her, but I don't want to lose her. We've been together for 3 years and I want us to get through this, I want to marry her. I don't know what to do, and had no clue who else to go to for help... Please help.
Sincerely,
Guy Hopelessly In Love With His Woman

Dear Guy Hopelessly In Love With His Woman,
I know you want this relationship to work, but some things are not meant to be. In a 3 year relationship, you should not be the after thought, you should be the end goal. Confront her and move on. How can you whole-heartedly trust her after this incident? How can you continue to share your bed with someone who has no disregard for her or your health? Do not waste your time and energy on someone who isn't even thinking of you. You are grown so I can not tell you what to do. I can not force you to move on. All I can say is you can chose who you love. Just make sure whoever you chose, loves you too.
- Miss Dimplez

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Advice Letter: He's Living With Another Girl

Dear Miss Dimplez,

I love your blog and I follow you on twitter and see that you give really good advice. I was hoping you could give me some too. Here's the deal, there's a guy that I am involved with, me and him talk, and stuff, and he calls me his lady, and comes over and puts it on me, stays the night and everything, but he's living with another girl. He's sexing her too, and I know it seems like I'm the side-chick, but I was with him first. He only moved in with that girl when we were having a fight, but now he's on the lease so he can't go no where. And I love him. Well, I'm in love with the way he makes me feel when I'm with him. My friends don't even want to listen any more. I just want to know if its wrong for me to be in this situation. I don't know what I should do, please help.

Sincerely,

Girl With Problem

Dear Girl With Problem,

I know they say you can't chose who you love, but you need to make the decision on whether or not to love this man... You may have been there "first" but a new girl has marked her territory. He's sneaking away and occasionally spending the night with you, but he is going home to her. At the end of the day, she is who he comes home to, not you. You are grown so I can not tell you what to do, all I can say is love yourself first. If you truly love yourself, you learn to respect yourself. And if you truly respect yourself, you would not disrespect yourself, or disrespect your body, by being the man's side-chick.

- Miss Dimplez

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The Weekly Wrap Up: End Of Times...

Never take for granted the daily blessings. A roof over your head, clothes on your back, and a computer in your front... After the natural disaster in Haiti [click here], and then the earthquake in Venezuela (5.6 mag), and then the earthquake in Argentina (6.3 mag)... It may be the end of times, but I'm just happy to be alive...

My Talent Tuesday, Saudia Furcron ...[click here].... Top blog of the week, Break Free... From Domestic Violence (over 1500+ views, filmed by TAJ) .....[click here].. The favorite mixtape, Usher's Raymond vs Raymond Leak(700+ downloads) .....[click here], and the favorite picture, Eva Mendes: Femme Of The Day (200+ views) .....[click here]...

Thanks for all of your continued support; Oh, and please "fan" me on facebook.
- Miss Dimplez

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The Birthday Presents Begin...

My birthday is on Monday (the 4th), and the presents have already begun to stream in... well, not necessarily "stream" but I got my first one today! ...So, I woke up this morning and a male friend of mine, called me and told me to get dressed; he'd be over in 15min. Before I could ask, "where are we going?", he had hung up the phone... Dragging my feet, I got dressed. Hopped in the whip, we took a little ride to the mall, went to Macys. He walked me to the watch counter, where they kept the G-shocks, and he said, "Pick one."... I started to protest, but the decision was final. He said this was for my birthday... So, I chose the all black with green highlights, [its a G-Shock watch by CASIO]. He totally made my day. =*]



Thanks J! 'preciate ya. =*]
- Miss Dimplez

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New Year's Resolution

I can't stand New Year's resolutions... Always had to have one growing up, didn't have the heart to tell my moms that they were a waste of time. In my young adult years, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot resolve and adequately make change in one night. Attention everyone who claims the year of 2O1O as year of "takeover", "success", or any other thing... Unless you have been making progressive steps towards this goal BEFORE the New Year, its not going to happen. It might, but not likely. The dawn of a New Year denotates the dawn of a new chance, not a level playing field. You've got to work for yours, just like I work for mine. So in 2O1O lets work. Work towards our respective levels of success. See you at the top.

God is love.
- Miss Dimplez

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R.I.P. Grandma

Dear Grandma,
I've been thinking about you lately. Crying into my pillow daily. Staying up late at night, self-reflecting, wondering, would like me the way I am now? Would I still strike the bone of pride in you that you had for your grandchildren... I still remember, early December, 04, PV Community Center. We wore matching blue striped sweaters, they sang Christmas carols and we went to your senior center, together. And though I do not remember the Latin man's origin, I still remember, that he liked you. Wanting to wife you. And instead of telling him about your late husband and 9 children and how you just learned to write your name, you told him about me. You told him how I was bound to be a basketball or track star, and that I would go to college and graduate from medical school... You told him how many grades I skipped, how I explained the Lifetime movies we watched, and how you always saved me some V8 juice, because you know I liked it...

You were proud, of me, your little Ijeoma that always seem to drag her feet every time you would ask her to run an errand. Especially those times you would ask me to grab your purse when you were 5 feet away, and I was all the way upstairs. Truth be told, I used to pretend like I was sleeping, because I knew you would eventually get it for yourself. I would groan when you'd ask me to hop in the shower and scrub your back, make sure the timer to Judge Judy was on, or put sweet and low in your bag... I was hard headed, constantly rebelling against authority. It was that piece of my mother in me, and though we got the most reprimands, it just meant that you loved us the most... A couple nights ago, I prayed to God, begging him to send you back. I figured, maybe if I prayed hard enough, he'd send you, giving me just enough time to wrap my arms around you, just for a little while. Its been two years to the tee, and on nights like this it seems like I'm the only one who remembers you. I know the younger kids have forgotten you, but I will never forget you. And though, back then, my hard-head outshined my listening skills, I promise Mama, I was listening. I miss you, and will make you proud...

Rest In Paradise Grandma "Mama" Cecelia Ekhomu 12-14-07 ♥

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Advice Letter: Help! I Went Through His Things!

Dear Miss Dimplez,
I think my boyfriend of the past year is cheating on me... The other day I was going through his phone, and found a couple texts from different girls. All the texts had winky faces and contained statements like "when am I going to see you?", "what are you doing tonight?" and "you looked sexy today"... I even found a picture of a girl in victoria secrets, it may be a playboy model or something, but I was so mad and upset, I know he didn't know I went through his stuff, so I just didn't say anything. Should I be upset? He is still coming home to me right? We've been living together for like 4 months but dating for a year, should I confront him? Should I leave him? I don't know what to do.. Help please!

Sincerely,
Girl With Problem

P.S.
I love your blog.

Dear Girl With Problem,

If you go looking for dirt you will surely find it. Never ever go through your man's things. If the tables were turned you would hate it if he went through yours... The damage has already been done; all you can do now is apologize for snooping and talk to him. Men are not mind readers. He'll only know how you feel if you tell him. Open up to him and see how things move from there. You'll know if it's time for a make up or break up. Also, never feel insecure about photos of playmates, models, etc... those are just fantasy women he most likely will never obtain. Ditch the hurt and dress up in something saucy. Take your own special pictures; let those be your man's constant reminders of what goodies he's coming home to.
- Miss Dimplez

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I'm Not Down With O.P.P.

Picture of @DivineShyne

What happened to being faithful to just one girl/man? Why do I gotta be down with "o.p.p." (other people's *property)? What happened to being ashamed of being the sidechick?... Call me old fashioned, but infidelity is that "new-new" and its catchy....

"I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship. ... Neither Brad nor I have ever claimed that living together means being chained together. We make sure that we never restrict each other." -Angelina Jolie

With wives *ahem*tricks*ahem* like that, there is no need for hookers... Sorry Angelina Jolie, as much as I love you on screen, off screen you got some issues. And these other issue having women are messing it up for the rest of us.

I was really diggin' a guy, we had great chemistry, and such. We were starting to transition our relationship from "talking" to dating... He said we could only make that step if I was ready. If you know me, I was born ready, but that's not what he meant.. He meant if I was ready to have a communicable relationship. (ex: threesomes, orgies, "other people"... etc). I'm no saint, but if committing to a him means being "open" to other people, that ain't happening. I've never been a cheater; always stay committed, when committed. And even though *technically it wouldn't be cheating, it just doesn't feel right. I guess I'm not the type of girl he's used to. The girlies of the world are setting the trend of no self-respect, and the men love it; and side-chicks (second-bests) are proud of it. And it all boils down to bull shxt that won't last... I am reminiscent of the days when you're with that one, and no one matters but them. Reminiscent of the days where even though you know it may not end up in marriage, at least for the mean time they're O.P.P. yours... And if you ain't with that, well, I ain't with you.
F*ck O.P.P.
- Miss Dimplez

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